The Fatty Solstice

"I know this transformation is painful -- but you're not falling apart; you're just falling into something different, with a new capacity to be beautiful." 

Well - here we are, exactly one month from my last blog post.  (I probably should have added "Update blog more frequently" to my list of 2017 resolutions.) However, as I was listening to a podcast that was sent to me by one of my good friends (you can listen here), I was struck by the idea of what they called the "Fatty Solstice." 

Statistically, the Fatty Solstice refers to the second Friday of February - the day when the average New Year's Resolution-er falls off the wagon, ditching the gym for the fast food. What causes us to go from well-meaning do-gooder to a life of... meh? That day is painstakingly close (This Friday! February 10!)... you've got exactly two more days to prevent this train from derailing. 

So what causes everyone to fall off the wagon so easily?  Is it a big lofty goal that seems too far to reach? I set some very lofty "goals" for myself this year.  As I talked about in my last post, I wanted to make 2017 a year of doing, NOT a year of restrictions. But that doesn't mean that they weren't a stretch. 

So I started by taking smaller steps. 

It doesn't matter what the resolution was that you set out to conquer this year.  Any journey worth having takes effort and sacrifice.   Remember: Any worthy journey will NOT come easily. A worthy journey should leave you a little afraid inside! When you sit back and look at the big picture, it can feel incredibly overwhelming. So break it down into bite-size pieces. What can you do today? Even if it is one single action per day, what can you do to work towards your goal? On my list of 2017 adventures is a trip to a national park.  Each day - regardless of what I'm doing - I put $5 away for myself in a jar.  $5 seems like nothing - it's a cup of coffee. But that's money that I've saved away for a trip that I WILL make happen!  Remember, it's not always about the bigger picture, but working towards a goal.

Find a mantra.

What motivates you? What quotes resonate with you? Find a personal message that is short and sweet that you can say to yourself.  Look at yourself in the mirror and repeat it.  It doesn't have to be anything that you have to share with anyone other than yourself.  A mantra means something to YOU!  But it doesn't work unless you BELIEVE it.

Be thankful for where you are at in life.

Our lives are a journey of ups and downs.  There will be good days and there will be bad. But, no one reading this can honestly say that they are the same person that they were 10 years ago. 10 years ago, I was still living at home, working at a restaurant and was convinced that I was dating the love of my life and I had the world figured out.  Let me tell you - none of those things were accurate.  

But look how far I've come! In just the last year alone, I've created and developed my own successful business.  Was I scared? YES! Were there times that I was uncertain? YES!  But that's the beauty! I never gave up and I let myself be thankful for where I was.  Life is a progression--and it's not over yet! 

So, as the Fatty Solstice comes round again this year on Friday, DON'T give in! Your resolution is good.  Your resolution is valid. And you WILL succeed if you want to!